May 29, 2025, 2:12 pm | Read time: 6 minutes

Many dog owners are familiar with the situation: You call your dog—and it doesn’t respond. Frustrating? Absolutely. But is your dog just being stubborn? Or is there something deeper behind the apparent disobedience—something related to your relationship with each other?

Misunderstandings in Everyday Life: Why Dogs Aren’t “Disobedient”

Dogs live in the here and now. When they seemingly don’t respond to us, it’s often not due to defiance but a lack of understanding. Perhaps the signal wasn’t clear, the timing was off, or the dog was simply distracted. Especially with young dogs, impulse control is not yet fully developed.

Other Common Misunderstandings

• Being overwhelmed by sensory overload: Especially in urban environments, dogs are bombarded with stimuli. Smells, sounds, strangers, and other dogs—all of this can cause your signal to simply get lost.
• Incorrect signal association: If a signal wasn’t consistently or clearly established, your dog can’t reliably associate it. Perhaps you’ve called “Here!” ten times—but never rewarded when they came or always called when there was no chance your dog would come despite distractions.

Tip: Train signals under various distractions and with positive reinforcement. Clear communication is key.

Relationship Instead of Control: The Basis for Attention

A dog that feels secure and understood is more attentive. Trust, shared rituals, and a secure environment foster bonding. If your dog can “turn away,” it often shows they feel too secure or not involved enough.

Relationship-Enhancing Measures

• Rituals create reliability: Shared breakfast or short cuddle sessions in the morning strengthen the sense of belonging.
• Small shared successes: Solving tasks together—like finding a hidden toy—strengthens the team feeling.
• Emotional availability: Those who are present in everyday life are more likely to be heard in stressful situations.

Excursion: What kind of bond do you have with your dog? Studies show that dogs develop different attachment types to their humans—similar to children. A secure attachment means trust, cooperation, and orientation towards the human. Insecurely attached dogs often show overreactions: they cling or ignore, are constantly excited, or withdraw. Your presence, timing, and reliability determine how secure your dog feels with you.

What Ignoring Really Means: Interpreting Body Language Correctly

A glance to the side, a yawn, running away—many things interpreted as ignorance are signals of insecurity or misunderstanding.

Examples of Commonly Misunderstood Signals

• Sniffing the ground: Often a calming signal, not disinterest.
• Yawning or turning away: Signs of stress or insecurity.
• Not coming when called: Could mean “I’m overwhelmed right now,” not “I don’t want to.”
• Watch for “sudden” dandruff in your dog’s coat—this is an “I’m stressed” signal, which is almost always “ignored” by humans.

Tip: Learn about dog language. Recognizing and correctly interpreting body signals opens up entirely new perspectives.

Maintaining the Relationship: 5 Everyday Exercises for More Connection

• Attention games during walks: Hide behind a tree and reward your dog when they find you.
• Exploring together instead of just “walking”: Let your dog decide where the path leads—having a say strengthens the relationship.
• Rewards for voluntary closeness: Closeness is valuable—make it rewarding with a calm voice, gentle petting, treats, and a smile.
• Encourage eye contact through gentle play: A play sequence can help refocus and promote eye contact.
• “Hide and seek” with toys or treats as connection training: Those who laugh together learn more easily—and that creates closeness.

Checklist: How Connected Does Your Dog Feel in Everyday Life?

• Does your dog voluntarily seek your closeness?
• Do they often stay near you, even off-leash?
• Do they respond to your gaze or body language?
• Do they seem relaxed in your presence?
• Do they seek your reassurance in new or stressful situations?

When Training, When Relationship?

Not every “inattention” can be solved with dog training—sometimes, it requires patience, closeness, and shared experiences.

Example: A dog that listens to every signal at home but ignores you in the park doesn’t need stricter training—but more security and trust in challenging situations.

• Training provides structure, but it’s not everything.
• A relationship brings connection and is the basis for successful training.

Both levels are interdependent and need to be nurtured.

How to Deal with Frustration

Your emotions also play a role. If you’re frustrated, for example, from work, your dog senses it. Dogs are highly sensitive observers—your facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, and walking pace—all of this is registered.

Strategies Against Frustration

• Conscious breathing and mini-breaks: Three deep breaths can work wonders.
• Mental reframing: Ask yourself, “Does my dog really want to ignore me, or do they just not understand me right now?”
• Mistakes as opportunities: Every setback is a chance for reflection and development—for both of you.

Mini Exercise: Reset for Humans

1. Stop. Take three deep breaths.
2. Lower your shoulders. Look at your dog calmly.
3. Say out loud, “It’s all good,” and smile!
4. Only move on when your heartbeat is calm again.

Also interesting: Dog Trainer: “Training Dogs Without Punishment? Difficult.”

Perspective Shift: What Your Dog Wants to Tell You

When dogs ignore signals, it’s often because they want to communicate something else—like “I’m scared,” “I don’t understand you,” or “I’m tired.”

Some possible messages

• “I need space”—for example when overwhelmed by too many stimuli.
• “I feel insecure”—such as with loud noises or strangers.
• “I’m having fun right now!”—play drive outweighs the desire to cooperate.

Those who listen instead of just commanding are more understood and heard more often.

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What You Can Do Today—3 Impulses for More Connection

1. Skip the next command. Instead, connect—with a smile, a friendly look, or an invitation.
2. Spend 10 minutes consciously with your dog without a goal. No training, no command. Just being.
3. Talk to your dog, not as a command—just because. Your voice is connecting.

Conclusion: When your dog ignores you, it’s usually not about disobedience—it’s about communication. A strong dog-human relationship is the foundation for harmonious coexistence. Instead of refining commands, it’s worth looking at your connection. Those who understand their dog will also be heard—and together, “ignoring” turns into genuine attention.